Would you consider this cheating?

I just got married a couple weeks ago. I'm browsing around myspace and run into these pictures of my wife.

http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v285/x...

http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v285/x...

Apparently she had some "fun" with a co-worker while on a business trip in a hotel room. She admits she had been drinking a little but swears up and down she didn't cheat on me. (As in sex, I suppose) My trust in her after 2 years of dating has been solid. This question is for those that have been married for quite some time now. I love her but this behavior is unacceptable. Would you move on or do you take the word of your spouse and let time heal things? Have you been in this type of situation before? And Myspace is evil though I never thought this sort of thing would happen to me, thanks Tom!

Would you consider this cheating?

yes i would consider that cheating. She is in bed with a man who is a little too friendly. She can swear all she wants but her credibility is shot. I say move on unless you can deal with this type of behavior in the future. Once they have a taste few ever stop.

flip it...how would she feel if that was you with a coworker?

Would you consider this cheating?

Yes.

Would you consider this cheating?

yes and don't settle for ANY excuses. she is a cheater and by the look of it she's proud of it.....

he is sooooo ugly by the way....

Would you consider this cheating?

yes i'd consider it cheating too. I'm sure if she really loves you and the shoe was on the other foot, she'd think so too

Would you consider this cheating?

She was on a trip, in a hotel, with a coworker of the opposite sex, she has on a bathrobe, and a toothbrush in her mouth.. AND the coworker appears to be playful with her...

This is obvious to EVERYONE reading this what she did and what you need to do.

Would you consider this cheating?

She said she didn't sleep with him? She's full of ****. I would get to a marriage counselor as fast as you can. You guys need to work on your marriage. Don't give up just yet. You have time invested and if you love her you owe it to each other to make it work. If things don't change after counseling then divorce is your next option. Good luck to you!

Would you consider this cheating?

This isn't cheating. Cheating is other things but there are things in this that would make me question whether she was cheating.

Perhaps you need to have a long talk with her and let her know that you don't consider these actions appropriate for one that respects their marriage.

It might be harmless but inappropriate regardless.

fs

Would you consider this cheating?

You got married for the better and for the worse--you also love your wife, so you do feel hurt and you feel like you can't trust her. She admits that she was drinking a little and she swears that she didn't cheat---and with that would I only do 2 things: I would kindly make her remove those pictures from myspace.com, and then I would let go of it and let time heal things...

Would you consider this cheating?

yes . plain and simple.

Would you consider this cheating?

This is crazy. If you never had a problem in2 years just let it go...drop this incident. Make sure she knows never 2 disrespect you ever again. Thank GOD they were'nt worse than that. GOOD LUCK... I'm wondering is she sad and hurt by this or is she laughing about it?

Would you consider this cheating?

Sorry dude, but this is cheating. It's really not debatable at all....she's in bed with another man...

I know sometimes there's a "gray area" sometimes, where there's disagreement about whether it's cheating, but this isn't one of those times.

She cheated on you. No ifs, ands, or buts.

Would you consider this cheating?

yeppers, that's cheating. married people should not be in a hotel in a bathrobe with the opposite sex unless that person is their spouse. sorry that you have to go through this but best to know now than learn the hard way a few years down the road

Would you consider this cheating?

Wow!! Lol you don't just get busted like that...

Would you consider this cheating?

Inappropriate at best, cheating at worst. I wouldn't like it, not even a little. If my husband did something similar, I don't know what I would do, but it sure wouldn't be pretty....

Just so you know, that man is not attractive so I would bet she was D R U N K, but that's not an acceptable excuse either.

Would you consider this cheating?

This is a tough. It was obviously a bad judgement call on your wife. Is this the first time you have found anything like this or suspected her of anything? If it is I think you should talk it out and try to move on from it. This was a mistake, but you guys should be able to work through it.

Would you consider this cheating?

Reconcile the relationship for a few months, then have her tested, hire a PI to seduce her at a place you'll know she'll be after work, and if she agrees to go back to his hotel room, that's it. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Don't forget to go after her superannuation as well.

Would you consider this cheating?

You're not THE TOM are you? You know, everybody's myspace friend?

Well what can you do about it? Let her be you can do better than that!

Would you consider this cheating?

I would not be able to trust her. Those pictures were disrespectful and distasteful. Imagine how upset she would be if she found pictures of you like those posted on Myspace.

Give yourself some space from her. Don't see her or speak to her for a little while if possible and take some time to make the right decision. Think about if past experiences and if she has done similar things that were inappropriate before.

People may say move on, but that is easier said than done. After two years of dating it is very hard to let go especially if you love someone. If you decide to stay with her make sure you let her know how you feel. Do not make it easy for her. With that I mean do not just take her back without telling her how you feel. I have not been in this situation but, unfortunately I know what it feels like to have been cheated on. You never forget. You never trust the person like you once did and it takes a long time to forgive.

Would you consider this cheating?

This behavior is definitely unacceptable! I really am stumped on what you should do, and how far you should take this. I don't th9ink I could trust my husband and I saw pictures like this. Why would she put these on myspace? If you knew what her site was, didn't she know that you would see the pictures there? Doesn't add up.

Would you consider this cheating?

Don't trust her, she is cheating on you and make you look like a fool. I'm sorry you guys just got married but it's better you know now then later. I would not accept this behavior if it was me. It's about trust and now you can't trust her at all. Without trust it won't work. Good luck!

Would you consider this cheating?

Can't really be sure, but I do know it is very inappropriate behaviour for a married person, especially a newlywed.

Being drunk or drinking a little is used as an excuse when a person is found out!! Why did she post these pictures, is she trying to rub your nose in it, or did she think she wouldn't be found out that another man was in her room or her in his with what looks like night ware.

If they had their day clothes on it might not look so suspicious to me. A little harmful play can escalate with booze into more serious play!!

If this happened to me I would let my spouse know how disappointed I am in their disrespect for me in putting themselves in this kind of position. Make sure they know I will forgive them this time, but if it happens again, I would hope they have the decency to think about it, because I would not give them another chance.

Would you consider this cheating?

Let her know that you are moving on without her. Her behavior when you are apart can not be tolerated this way. If you gave her a commitment and this happened what would you do? Some time apart might give her time to put her priorities in place.

Would you consider this cheating?

Go with what your gut feeling is telling you.

Would you consider this cheating?

my friend first of all.2 wrongs don't make a right.you need to sit her down and really talk to her and let her know that you dis approve of her behavior.tell her that she is married now and that anything that she does and can't talk to you about it cause you might get mad or she doesn't want to hurt your feelings then she knows it is wrong.and also you might want to get counseling to find out what the problem is.and lastly let her know that if shes going to have male friends that can hangout in her room then you should be able to do the same .she has to build back your trust so she needs to let her male friend or co-worker know that her relationship is in trouble.

Would you consider this cheating?

Definitely inappropriate. To put yourself in a quasi-intimate situation with ANYONE other than your spouse is cheating in my opinion.

Would you consider this cheating?

Hello! Yes, cheating. Now, I wouldn't trust her and I would file before you waste any more time.

Would you consider this cheating?

Well the pictures do look a little suspicious and it looked like they were wearing bathrobes. But it all depends on what type of friends they are. Do they joke around alot and it is there normal behavior? I think men and woman can be friends and nothing more and they are co-workers and were probably bored and hanging out together in the hotel rooms. I would say trust what she tells you, but keep your eyes open.