My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her bac

My wife started a new bartending job about 5 months ago. The place draws in a younger crowd and she is there until close on the weekends (2:00 a.m. , not home until 3:30 or 4:00). In the past couple of months she has been wanting to spend more time with her co-workers, etc. who are ~20-25 years old. My wife is 39 years old. She even has a myspace and talks to them on there. Recently she has put a regular customer (male, ~25 years old) as a friend on her myspace. I also found some pictures of him ( from his myspace) she had in her bag that she takes to work. I asked her about them and she said she had them to show a friend from her previous work. She thought they new someone in common. I thought this was strange as she had ~7 pictures of this guy. She denies having an affair and I am trying believe her, but a lot of trust has been lost. She seems to like the younger atmosphere to much and not the family life at home,3 kids. she says she doesn't like to be around me lately too

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

sounds like someone wants their party life back

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Sounds like her job has gone to her head and you and the kids are left behind. She has to quit or lose her family.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

sounds like she's having a fling.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Y'all need to sit down and talk about the marriage and the family. Perhaps counseling is in order to get your relationship back on track...if she "doesn't like to be around you" then that needs to change, or you two need to go your separate ways.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Chat with her on myspace, as someone that she doesnt know. You will know then if she is the flirty cheating type. You need to catch her in the act, you cant just accuse her of something you have no proof of. But more than likely she isnt being 100 % loyal to you.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Try " dating " her again ? with flowers, wine, jewellery ?

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Sorry bud I think shes cheating, if still want her act like you did when you got her. Good Luck!

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

This doesn't sound good. I am very sorry for you. Just remember, you don't deserve that no mattter what.

You need to catch her, before you truly accuse though. But being a woman, I'd say she is not being honest with you in some way.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Wow, I would be concerned as well! I take it you consented to her job when she hired on? My husband knows I'm a natural flirt (I mean nothing by it) and he would never, ever agree to me working in a bar, no matter what ages go there!

Put your foot down and tell her it's time to find another job!

I wish you well!

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

It sounds bad dude. Hire a private I if she is having an affair and you can prove it in court you get the kids the house the money. The courts show no lve to a cheating spouse.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Plain and simple I think your wife is having an affair. Do you want to play dumb like you don't notice what is going on but you have described every detail yourself and that is what it looks like. Now do you want to save your marriage you have to confront it or do you want to let it go? She feels like a MILF right now because of all this young attention she is getting.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Talk to her tell her exactly how you feel. You never knoe exactly what's wrong, mabey some jerk hit on her a the bar? anyway the pictures thing could be what she's saying. Again talk to her, mabey she's also realizing all the fun she missed out when she was younger and seeing all of these young fellows she is trying again to have fun, After all she's almost 40 thats a sad age for a women, you probably don't have sex as often as you used to , you probably don't take her on dates as you used to ( it doesn't matter if your married) you probably don't treat her the way you used to, yadda yadda, she might just be feeling that shes gettin old and is a little depressed about it, and there fore is trying to go around with younger people, makes her feel more juvinile ,.... idonno talk to her!!!!

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Your wife is going through a mid-life crisis. She'll be 40 on her next birthday!!! Tell her that she is not 25 anymore, but that she is like fine wine, better with age. Ask her to quit her job. If she hangs around those young folks and ignores her children, she will regret it one day. You can win her back by being more romantic, and, if possible, take her away on a second honeymoon somewhere romantic and warm. Good luck!

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

She probably just likes feeling young again. Unfortunately, there is a reason why we have a youth, to be young. If she missed out, it's too late to live like the 20-somethings she works with. Of course the mid-20s are fun (little responsibility, no one to answer to, etc.), but there is a reason why that period of our lives only lasts a little while. Your wife needs to act like a mom with 3 kids at home. She should also get a job that doesn't keep her away from you guys at night. Why did she suddenly start bartending? Watch out for the young guy. Has she been calling him? Seeing him outside of work? At least she's not staying later than necessary at work. If the place closes at 2, I can see where she wouldn't get home for a while. Bars take a while to clean up I imagine.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Yes you should be concerned. How can you win her back well make a nice dinner or go out to a nice place to eat. Do all the things guys do when they want to win the girls heart the first time around. There needs to be a way that see can quick her job she haas three kids that really isn't the best place for a mother to work since your kids are looking up to the both of you. Which brings on a good subject kids sense tings that you will not even think about so if you don't want them to know ou are having problems then keep in on the down low ntil things are back to normal.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

well she should respect her family first and the younger mans seems to be a attraction to her tell her to quit the bar scene and get a better job and if she cant be around you the really make sure she pays half of all expenses since she likes living as friends and not husband and wife then get divorced if you find out she is cheating good luck to you

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Yes, you should be concerned. Sounds to me like your wife has had a taste of the single life. And, as a bartender..she is probably getting more attention from new guys that she can handle. If you aren't doing anything wrong in the marriage there is no reason why YOU should have to win HER back.. That is for her to do. Since, she seems to be the one out there acting like she isn't married and a mother of three. There is nothing wrong with having friends. BUT, there is no reason in the world why she should be carrying around pictures of another man to show anyone. Why don't you get a babysitter one night and stop in to her bar? Just lay low in the shadows and watch and see how your wife is conducting herself. If you suspect she is cheating on you.. ask her about it. If after she denies it (which more than likely she will- if she's smart) take matters in to your own hands. And, FIND OUT for yourself. Don't just sit there and let it eat at you. You are her husband and have more than enough right to know what your wife and the mother of your children is doing. Best of luck to you.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Time for you to drop in her work a few nights a week. Make yourself seen by other workers and customers alike. It sounds like the beginnings of an affair, and how can you stop someone who is seriously infatuated from destroying their marriage? That's the question nobody can answer. How she reacts if you show up at this bar will tell you something.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

something more than just work.

U need to talk to her and give her an ultimatium, leave the job or family leaves!!!!

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Maybe she was burnt out on what was happening at home.

Who wouldn't? Always cleaning up after the kids, doing piles of laundry, cooking all the time, washing the dishes, hearing the ankle biters cry and argue all the time........then you coming home talking about work and people she knows nothing about.

So she's having a bit of an adventure. And the outside attention she is getting from others makes her happy. She's valued as a person, not a personal maid.

When the newness of the job wears off, she'll mellow out.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Wow!! I know someone else in this same situation. The first thing is this, be 100% honeest no matter how harsh it may seem. It's a marriage and you both should issue and demand respect of one anothers feelings. It may even be time to make a unexpected visit to the club. Remember this, you can tell what's going on just from looking. People only do what they are use to. Stay back in a corner and just observe. NEVER EVER NEVER lose your cool no matter what you see.

If your not in to that, what is done in the dark will come to the light and that is a bridge that's hard to cross. Wish you well.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

That is what usually happens when one person from the marriage gets involved in the bar industry. Its never a good idea. She seems to be getting caught up in the party life and the flirting that goes along with it. She maybe not having an affair but the job is definetly becoming a problem. You should sit her down and talk to her about it. it may be time for her to get into a new profession if there is a chance at saving the marriage. If she refuses, i would say your problems are just starting. I hope it works out for you, doesnt seem like there is much you can do other than try to convince her to quit her job and focus on the marriage and kids. Good Luck!

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Distant is an understatement ! She is not even on the same planet right now. All that has happened is that her head has been turned by all the excitement. ( which is understandable and should have been foreseen by the fact that she wanted to bartend at 39 and married with 3 kids). Her head has been turned and SHE TURNED IT!. In my opinion she wont leave it behind unless given proper motivation. Sit down and tell her that you know its boring to be 39 with 3 kids and you want to have fun WITH HER ! Tell her you want for her to have a family and FUN ! Then the two of you can move on together from there. Dont worry too much about the 25 year old guy. If it wasnt him, it would be someone else but you need to really stay in her business and dont let her get any more caught up in the nightlife than she already has. Have fun WITH her. good luck.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

She's a bartender and had 7 pics of the guy..and she doesn't like to be around you... Dude, you should be worried..seriously. Attraction is not a choice.

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My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

RED FLAG ZONE!!!!!!

Of course, she likes it better at the bar where she can imagine she is hot to horny young guys. Of course, wouldn't YOU like it better to be surrounded by horny girls, instead of home with 3 kids, and a stagnant marriage? YES!

You want her back, you need to sit down with her,and tell her your concerns. Tell her you are not putting up with this behavior, that it has rocked your trust.

If she cares, she will want to fix it. If not, you need to know quick.

INSIST that she attend marriage counselling with you. YOU set it up.

If she refuses, go anyway. If she goes, it means she is aware of her red flag behavior and is ready to be a grown-up again. If she refuses, YOU need to figure out how to get custody of the kids,and not damage them for having a cheating, childish mom.

If you think she's cheating-she probably is. So sorry.

PS.Hire a PI to watch her at closing time-one time with a camera.

Boom=custody, and you don't lose your house.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

she is having a mid-life crisis. she wants to feel hip, young and single again. But, she is not single and 25 anymore! She is married and has kids....she knows it and you know it...no matter how much she tries to forget. You have every right to feel betrayed. You should talk w/ her and tell her exactly how you feel. If you don't say something or do something now, things are only going to stay as they are or get worse. You and the kids can't compete with her job or her new friends -- it is too much fun. Tell her she needs to find another job. What kind of job is a bartender anyway for a 39 your old woman?? She needs to be home with her kids, not out partying. If she keeps this up, hire a private investigator or enlist a trustworthy friend, to go to the bar and spy on her and see if she is really cheating on you with this kid. Of course, she will not do anything if you are there and she knows you are there. Have him take pictures if he sees something, they could be useful later if you decide to get a divorce. She is your wife %26amp; you have a right to know!

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

This is a problem you may not be able to solve. She is acting like the youngsters she is hanging around with. It is a lot more fun to drink with single unattached party animals than to be a responsible stay at home mom.

Good luck! She needs to grow up and become responsible. All you can do is encourage!

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

it sounds like she has fallen out of love with you. She's 39 and now hanging with younger kids at the bar. She feels like she is getting old and this keeps her young. Sit her down and tell her that you n her have to really talk about your relationship. tell her how you feel and if she's not happy, then let her go. If you have treated her and the kids decently, then you deserve to find someone to share your life with that will be by your side and share your life together. Good luck to you. Also if you thinks she's cheating, hire a private detective or call cheaters. they can help you

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Yes, you should be concerned. Her carrying 7 pictures of a guy in her purse b/c someone "might" know them- is a lie. She probably has a crush on him. She's getting caught up in the moment of hanging around younger people, which she may have never had the opportunity to enjoy. When my parents split up, that's exactly what my mother did when she left. She liked the party scene again, young friends, the attention.

I think you should have a one on one and talk to her. She can't live her life like this and keep the family in line at the same time. She has to choose- the family or the lifestyle.

I guess you could try winning her back by looking into activities that she's starting to get into and getting involved too, so she can see that she can have fun with you and the kids, and not just her new "friends". Try to look for new things to do as a couple, take a class together, picnics, anything that you used to do when you were dating or newly weds. Things that well help her appreciate what she has.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Sounds like she is around the younger crowd and the party life is appealing to her again for some reason. Try planning a DATE for the two of you, show her you love her and you all can still have fun... I would be keeping my eyes out though. I also think you should talk to her, just like you have here.

My wife has become more distant the past 3 months or so. Should i be concerned, How do I win her back?

Sounds like she is probably cheating. You should talk to a marriage counselor.